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    When Will Her Married Boyfriend Leave His Wife?
    Christan
    • Jun 6, 2021
    • 4 min

    When Will Her Married Boyfriend Leave His Wife?

    I was a married and hooked up with a married man at a mutual friend’s party. No excuse-My husband was ten years older than me and we’d...
    69 views0 comments
    Traumatic Effects Of A Breakup
    Christan
    • Mar 21, 2021
    • 3 min

    Traumatic Effects Of A Breakup

    38 years old guy in my hometown found me on tinder as I was temporarily visiting home. I was ready for a hookup but instead he ...
    70 views0 comments
    Is Her Situationship Keeping Her Single?
    Christan
    • Jan 17, 2021
    • 3 min

    Is Her Situationship Keeping Her Single?

    Known this guy for 30 years,- best friends brother. he clears his schedule for me on weekends - night my choice - wines and dines - has...
    93 views0 comments
    How Do You Get Over A Toxic Ex?
    Christan
    • Jan 1, 2021
    • 3 min

    How Do You Get Over A Toxic Ex?

    An ex I walked out on last Christmas reappeared via email asking if I’d be in town so that he can give me a gift he’d previously bought...
    63 views0 comments
    Is He Hiding A Secret Life?
    Christan
    • Dec 30, 2020
    • 3 min

    Is He Hiding A Secret Life?

    Saw you on tiktok and wanted to reach out. I’m having some issues dealing with my boyfriend’s handling or lack there of when it comes to...
    28 views0 comments
    When Do You Tell Them You're Looking For Something Serious?
    Christan
    • Sep 8, 2020
    • 3 min

    When Do You Tell Them You're Looking For Something Serious?

    How soon should you mention that you are looking for something serious leading to marriage without sounding like you want to rush things...
    49 views0 comments
    How Do You Date When You Don't Know What You Want?
    Christan
    • May 22, 2020
    • 3 min

    How Do You Date When You Don't Know What You Want?

    I met a guy through online speed dating and we were a match. He emailed me and asked if we could speak on the phone. During our...
    119 views0 comments
    Should She Start Dating If She's Not Divorced Yet?
    Christan
    • Apr 8, 2020
    • 4 min

    Should She Start Dating If She's Not Divorced Yet?

    How to begin doing online dating when you are separated. Relationship with soon to be ex is still friendly & supportive. Difficulty in ...
    112 views0 comments
    How Does He Tell Her He Doesn't Want To Get Married?
    Christan
    • Mar 29, 2020
    • 4 min

    How Does He Tell Her He Doesn't Want To Get Married?

    I don't see so many postings here from men, but here goes. I've been dating my current girlfriend for six months now. Next month, we are...
    132 views1 comment
    Why Do Women Keep Dumping Him?
    Christan
    • Feb 23, 2020
    • 4 min

    Why Do Women Keep Dumping Him?

    Jay asks: I want to discuss a trend that I have noticed recently. I'll start with an actual example. First off (for background), I am 31...
    169 views2 comments
    Why Did He Suddenly Blow Her Off?
    Christan
    • Feb 11, 2020
    • 3 min

    Why Did He Suddenly Blow Her Off?

    Bella asks: I've been dating this guy for a few weeks (our last date was Saturday - our fifth date) and wanted to get your perspective...
    147 views0 comments
    Podcast - Meet Romance Scammer Derek Alldred
    Christan
    • Jan 20, 2020
    • 2 min

    Podcast - Meet Romance Scammer Derek Alldred

    "DL" ASKS: I’m a 52 year old male and have been single most of my life. My last relationship ended ten years ago. I have had zero luck...
    120 views2 comments
    How Long Can He Keep Stringing Her Along?
    Christan
    • Jan 10, 2020
    • 3 min

    How Long Can He Keep Stringing Her Along?

    I'm a 32-year-old man; I spent the majority of my 20s in a couple of long-term relationships and so never really got used to "dating."  ...
    206 views1 comment
    When And How To Disclose Trauma, Abuse & Mental Illness
    Christan
    • Jan 8, 2020
    • 6 min

    When And How To Disclose Trauma, Abuse & Mental Illness

    Nicole asks: I’ve struggled with chronic depression/anxiety on and off for 10 years and have been aggressively treating it, but it's...
    112 views1 comment
    Is He Cheap Or Just Bitter?
    Christan
    • Jan 6, 2020
    • 3 min

    Is He Cheap Or Just Bitter?

    Cecilia asks: Hi Christan and Sarah! I've been dating a guy (he's 28) for the past ten months. It's my first "serious" ( or as serious...
    144 views1 comment
    Is He Just In It For The Sex?
    Christan
    • Jan 2, 2020
    • 5 min

    Is He Just In It For The Sex?

    Nicole asks: I have a question about online dating and exclusivity that's sort of tangentially related to your most recent piece on...
    115 views1 comment
    Why Playing Hard To Get Never Works
    Christan
    • Dec 25, 2019
    • 3 min

    Why Playing Hard To Get Never Works

    Pilot Girl asks: Comment: I met a guy a few months ago through a friend. He's a little younger and works crazy hours in the investment...
    119 views2 comments
    Why Are We So Afraid Of Being Alone?
    Christan
    • Dec 22, 2019
    • 5 min

    Why Are We So Afraid Of Being Alone?

    Confused asks: Comment: Hi.  About 6 years ago I met a man online when I was living in NYC.  We went out twice and had sex on the 2nd...
    124 views0 comments
    How To Avoid Getting Too Attached, Too Quickly
    Christan
    • Dec 17, 2019
    • 8 min

    How To Avoid Getting Too Attached, Too Quickly

    Nicole asks: A 47 yo recently contacted me on Bumble, and we proceeded to have long, intense conversations over the next two weeks,...
    431 views2 comments
    Your Sexual History Is Nobody's Business
    Christan
    • Dec 10, 2019
    • 4 min

    Your Sexual History Is Nobody's Business

    Name: Audrey Message: Hi Christan And Sara, Over a week ago I matched with a guy on Bumble, we’ll call him Conner. We exchanged a few...
    171 views1 comment
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