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    When Will Her Married Boyfriend Leave His Wife?
    Christan
    • Jun 6, 2021
    • 4 min

    When Will Her Married Boyfriend Leave His Wife?

    I was a married and hooked up with a married man at a mutual friend’s party. No excuse-My husband was ten years older than me and we’d...
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    Is Her Situationship Keeping Her Single?
    Christan
    • Jan 18, 2021
    • 3 min

    Is Her Situationship Keeping Her Single?

    Known this guy for 30 years,- best friends brother. he clears his schedule for me on weekends - night my choice - wines and dines - has...
    93 views0 comments
    What Does "Intimidating" Really Mean?
    Christan
    • Jun 8, 2020
    • 3 min

    What Does "Intimidating" Really Mean?

    What does he mean? I recently had a video date with a man I met on Bumble. After we chatted, he sent me a message saying he enjoyed...
    120 views0 comments
    Do Men Still Expect Women To Have Sex By The Third Date?
    Christan
    • Apr 29, 2020
    • 2 min

    Do Men Still Expect Women To Have Sex By The Third Date?

    In the (barely) over 50 dating category, are women still "expected" to have sex with the guy on/following the 3rd date or the 3rd week...
    431 views0 comments
    Beware The Relationship Re-Booter
    Christan
    • Mar 19, 2020
    • 5 min

    Beware The Relationship Re-Booter

    Elizabeth asks: My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me about a month ago and his reasons were... questionable. I mean, they made no...
    132 views0 comments
    Write A Dating App Bio That Gets You Dates
    Christan
    • Feb 6, 2020
    • 4 min

    Write A Dating App Bio That Gets You Dates

    Anne asks: I’ve been on the Bumble app and the OkCupid all for over seven months and I loathe them. All of my Bumble dates have been...
    133 views0 comments
    Should He Lie So He Can Date Younger Women?
    Christan
    • Jan 30, 2020
    • 4 min

    Should He Lie So He Can Date Younger Women?

    TJ asks: I have a really quick question with almost no drama...if such a thing exists! I have been online dating off and on for about a...
    177 views0 comments
    How To Avoid 
Dating App Ghosts & Flakes
    Christan
    • Jan 27, 2020
    • 7 min

    How To Avoid Dating App Ghosts & Flakes

    Laura asks: I'm relatively new to dating apps. Still navigating these waters mostly, but so far my experience seems to be pretty...
    261 views0 comments
    The Keys To Getting A Second Date
    Christan
    • Jan 23, 2020
    • 4 min

    The Keys To Getting A Second Date

    Missy asks: I'm a attractive, slim, college educated, decent job, well dressed (I.e. feminine not showy) confident and modern woman who...
    171 views0 comments
    Forget About Dating Apps. How Do You Approach Potential Matches In Real Life?
    Christan
    • Jan 21, 2020
    • 4 min

    Forget About Dating Apps. How Do You Approach Potential Matches In Real Life?

    Beth asks: 23 year female looking for an answer... So I’ve followed this site in and out and first off I like it’s female perspective....
    214 views0 comments
    Podcast - Meet Romance Scammer Derek Alldred
    Christan
    • Jan 20, 2020
    • 2 min

    Podcast - Meet Romance Scammer Derek Alldred

    "DL" ASKS: I’m a 52 year old male and have been single most of my life. My last relationship ended ten years ago. I have had zero luck...
    119 views2 comments
    Should You Tell Someone They Don't Look Like Their Photos?
    Christan
    • Jan 15, 2020
    • 3 min

    Should You Tell Someone They Don't Look Like Their Photos?

    What's the etiquette when you meet someone for the first time via an online dating website, and you can clearly see he or she is much...
    1,138 views2 comments
    How Long Can He Keep Stringing Her Along?
    Christan
    • Jan 10, 2020
    • 3 min

    How Long Can He Keep Stringing Her Along?

    I'm a 32-year-old man; I spent the majority of my 20s in a couple of long-term relationships and so never really got used to "dating."  ...
    206 views1 comment
    When And How To Disclose Trauma, Abuse & Mental Illness
    Christan
    • Jan 8, 2020
    • 6 min

    When And How To Disclose Trauma, Abuse & Mental Illness

    Nicole asks: I’ve struggled with chronic depression/anxiety on and off for 10 years and have been aggressively treating it, but it's...
    108 views1 comment
    Is He Just In It For The Sex?
    Christan
    • Jan 2, 2020
    • 5 min

    Is He Just In It For The Sex?

    Nicole asks: I have a question about online dating and exclusivity that's sort of tangentially related to your most recent piece on...
    115 views1 comment
    Can She Ever Fully Trust Her Boyfriend?
    Christan
    • Dec 31, 2019
    • 5 min

    Can She Ever Fully Trust Her Boyfriend?

    Barb asks: Two years ago, and a few months before we started dating, my boyfriend came very close to sleeping with a married friend....
    102 views1 comment
    Why Playing Hard To Get Never Works
    Christan
    • Dec 25, 2019
    • 3 min

    Why Playing Hard To Get Never Works

    Pilot Girl asks: Comment: I met a guy a few months ago through a friend. He's a little younger and works crazy hours in the investment...
    119 views2 comments
    How To Avoid Getting Too Attached, Too Quickly
    Christan
    • Dec 17, 2019
    • 8 min

    How To Avoid Getting Too Attached, Too Quickly

    Nicole asks: A 47 yo recently contacted me on Bumble, and we proceeded to have long, intense conversations over the next two weeks,...
    429 views2 comments
    Why Can't She Meet Any Hot Alpha Men Her Age?
    Christan
    • Dec 15, 2019
    • 8 min

    Why Can't She Meet Any Hot Alpha Men Her Age?

    Rose asks: I'm a late bloomer who has enjoyed being single, but finally (in the past 3 to 4 years) truly desires a full fledged intimacy...
    205 views3 comments
    Do Emotionally Unavailable People Ever Commit?
    Christan
    • Nov 26, 2019
    • 3 min

    Do Emotionally Unavailable People Ever Commit?

    Hi, I have a question about unavailable men. Some of my exes and nearly all of the men I've tried to be in a relationship with were/are...
    144 views0 comments
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