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    How Do You Get Over A Toxic Ex?
    Christan
    • Jan 1, 2021
    • 3 min

    How Do You Get Over A Toxic Ex?

    An ex I walked out on last Christmas reappeared via email asking if I’d be in town so that he can give me a gift he’d previously bought...
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    Anger, Emotional Affairs & Arm Penises
    Christan
    • Aug 4, 2020
    • 1 min

    Anger, Emotional Affairs & Arm Penises

    We're talking about emotional affairs, why women feel guilty about getting angry, a man who can't stop playing with his arm-penis and...
    59 views0 comments
    How Do You Find A Relationship If You've Never Had One?
    Christan
    • Jul 22, 2020
    • 4 min

    How Do You Find A Relationship If You've Never Had One?

    I'm at the risk of becoming a 40-Year Old Virgin in a few years. My dating history is non-existant, and even in date settings I have...
    94 views0 comments
    Why Do Women Sleep With Other Men But Not Him?
    Christan
    • Mar 17, 2020
    • 3 min

    Why Do Women Sleep With Other Men But Not Him?

    Kevin asks: I have met 40-year-old women who are tentative about kissing after dinner or drinks at my place on the second or third (!)...
    163 views0 comments
    Podcast - Men Can Be Drama Queens, Too
    Christan
    • Feb 20, 2020
    • 1 min

    Podcast - Men Can Be Drama Queens, Too

    We're talking why men aren't called out more for being gold-diggers or attention whores; why you should never "High Fidelity" your past...
    36 views0 comments
    He Can Be Both Victim And Villain
    Christan
    • Feb 17, 2020
    • 6 min

    He Can Be Both Victim And Villain

    In her recent Medium essay, writer Kelly Eden details her experience with a woman who contacted her fiancee for two years despite being...
    119 views1 comment
    When And How To Disclose Trauma, Abuse & Mental Illness
    Christan
    • Jan 8, 2020
    • 6 min

    When And How To Disclose Trauma, Abuse & Mental Illness

    Nicole asks: I’ve struggled with chronic depression/anxiety on and off for 10 years and have been aggressively treating it, but it's...
    108 views1 comment
    How To Avoid Getting Too Attached, Too Quickly
    Christan
    • Dec 17, 2019
    • 8 min

    How To Avoid Getting Too Attached, Too Quickly

    Nicole asks: A 47 yo recently contacted me on Bumble, and we proceeded to have long, intense conversations over the next two weeks,...
    429 views2 comments
    Your Sexual History Is Nobody's Business
    Christan
    • Dec 10, 2019
    • 4 min

    Your Sexual History Is Nobody's Business

    Name: Audrey Message: Hi Christan And Sara, Over a week ago I matched with a guy on Bumble, we’ll call him Conner. We exchanged a few...
    171 views1 comment
    How Do You Know If You're Settling?
    Christan
    • Nov 20, 2019
    • 5 min

    How Do You Know If You're Settling?

    Alias (DO NOT USE A REAL NAME!!): Confused Comment: How do you reconcile the need to be attracted to your mate and not lowering your...
    54 views0 comments
    So You Dated a Narcissist. Now What?
    Christan
    • Nov 17, 2019
    • 4 min

    So You Dated a Narcissist. Now What?

    In many ways, the after-math of a relationship with a narcissist is just if not more damaging than the relationship itself. This is Part...
    77 views0 comments

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