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Christan
- Sep 23, 2020
- 4 min
Signs Your Date Is Toxic
We'd been sitting at our corner two-top table for less than thirty minutes when it started. I could barely finish a sentence without him cutting me off or turning the conversation back to him. At first I thought he was nervous, so I allowed him to do it, hoping he'd eventually course-correct. He didn't. As the youngest child in my family, being talked over was and still is a huge pet peeve of mine. Eventually, I'd had enough. "Do you realize you keep interrupting me?" I asked
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Christan
- Sep 20, 2020
- 1 min
Podcast - Smug Couples, Awkward Break-Ups & Answers For That "Why Are You Single?" Question
A reader asks what she should do about being uninvited to events because she's single. Sarah and I also parse an essay by a man weirdly proud of being dumped for no reason. Also listen in as we advise a PhD candidate on whether she should prioritize her education or dating. PLUS! We have the PERFECT response for the age old question "Why are you single?" She Ended Things After the Second Date and Gave me a Rundown of What Went Wrong https://psiloveyou.xyz/she-ended-things-af
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Christan
- Sep 19, 2020
- 5 min
Never Do This With Your Bumble Match
There I was, innocently sipping my iced coffee, my gorgeous pitt bull snoring at my feet, when I saw this headline. She Ended Things After the Second Date and Gave me a Rundown of What Went Wrong After the second date, we left on an odd note, and we took some time to reflect and when we spoke again, we decided that we shouldn’t continue dating. It was pretty mutual, but I don’t feel the need to cover up the fact that it was her idea. “Do you really want to know why?” she
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Christan
- Sep 15, 2020
- 5 min
How To Match With People You Find Attractive
Why is it that men on my dating sites (Elite and Match) who look non professional and have none of my interests the only ones who pick me? and the men I reach out to never respond to me? Those guys look like they should be on Post Office wall as the serial killers. Truly. Please keep in mind is that what you're experiencing is not unique to you. On the contrary, it's a universal hurdle many single online dating users face. When I ask profile review clients what their experien
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Christan
- Sep 13, 2020
- 1 min
Podcast - Dating Leagues, Tinder Narcissists & Friends With Benefits
This one's about figuring out your dating league and when to shoot out of it. We also talk about the dangers of dating a narcissist. FOLLOW US ON IG @thechristanm @1sarahg @womenologypod Is it a bad idea to continue to sleep with someone (36m) who indicated he’s not looking for a relationship? https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/inpi8k/bad_idea_to_continue_to_sleep_with_someone_36m/ Having a hard time finding a friends with benefits with a man I'm really attrac
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Christan
- Sep 8, 2020
- 3 min
When Do You Tell Them You're Looking For Something Serious?
How soon should you mention that you are looking for something serious leading to marriage without sounding like you want to rush things but also to avoid wasting your time if that's not something they are looking for in the future? I think the first bridge that needs to be crossed is determining if you actually like someone enough to date them exclusively. We're so fixated on not being led on or being used that we don't focus on what's in front of us. This is one reason why
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Christan
- Sep 4, 2020
- 3 min
Is It Sexist To Expect Men To Pay For Dates?
Why is it that the vast majority of women still do not offer to pickup their share of the cost a date night out? Is that not sexism? First, let's define "vast majority." I don't agree that the "vast majority" of women expect men to pay for dates. In my opinion, this is a generational expectation. I hear more and more Gen Z women claim that they have no issues paying their fair share of a tab on a date. The more accurate perception is that the vast majority of women you date
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Christan
- Sep 1, 2020
- 4 min
The Stigma Of Being Over 40 & Never Married
Hi there. As I get older, I am becoming more insecure in the dating scene. I'd like to have a family one day, but men seem to think that women over 30 have an expiration date. While they are interested in me at first, the age thing comes up and I think they realize they would like someone younger. I, too, in a way, would prefer someone around my age or 2-3 years younger. However, I keep getting interest from older men that fall out of my age range. Any advice on ho
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