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Christan
- May 22, 2020
- 3 min
How Do You Date When You Don't Know What You Want?
I met a guy through online speed dating and we were a match. He emailed me and asked if we could speak on the phone. During our conversation he asked what I was looking for and I told him I was looking for a relationship, he said he was looking for friendship or maybe a relationship. He didn’t seem to want to meet in person and was kind of nervous on the phone. Is there any hope here? - Sue, Boston, 43 When someone you match with through a singles event, speed dating eve
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Christan
- May 20, 2020
- 3 min
How To Get More Messages On Dating Apps
So many of these people seem to say the same things. What should I look for to find someone who is more authentic/honest? Also, I tend to be inundated with intros, is there anyway to cut down on the guys who only look at my pic? Is there some way to filter by creating a less attractive pic? Advice? I'm not sure you can filter out people who only look at your pictures. You have to remember that dating apps condition users to look at the photos first, swipe and then read the
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Christan
- May 13, 2020
- 4 min
The Uncomfortable Truth Many Singles Don't Want To Hear
Ok Cupid says I have over 700 likes. Yet, none seem to have a paid membership where they can send me a message. They do send me profiles of people that aren't of any interest to me. For example : guys, bi-sexual women, women open to hookups, women living in other states,etc.. Do they really think I'm going to opt for a paid membership. Ok Cupid has really gone down hill fast since Match was allowed to purchase it. When the 3 young men owned it, I met women. Talked to wom
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Christan
- May 10, 2020
- 5 min
Romance Scammer Red Flags You Might Be Missing
When Patrick* messaged me mere minutes after I liked one of his photos, I knew something was off. It’s never been that easy. Usually, it took at least an hour or two for a guy to see the notification. Three minutes? And from a guy who is conventionally attractive? Nope. My Spidey Senses tingling, we exchanged a couple of messages and I inquired if he lived in Manhattan. He said yes. “What part?” I asked. “I’m on the Upper East Side.” “I told you. I live in Manhattan.” Block.
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Christan
- May 6, 2020
- 1 min
The Mean Girl Myth
What color crayon is your heart? We ask ourselves that as we delve into the intra-gender bullying and the Mean Girl Myth. Speaking of myths, we also discuss the 3 Date Rule and whether it still exists. We also cover why Facebook engagement announcements are the worst. WHEN MEAN GIRLS BECOME MEAN WOMEN
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WHAT TO DO IF YOU STRUGGLE WITH GIRL FRIENDS
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WILL SOMEONE STOP GAWKING
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Christan
- May 5, 2020
- 4 min
Why Isn't He Making Any Effort?
I'm in my mid 50's and last year my husband left me for another woman after 13 years together. It was a terrible shock as I had no warning and didn't know he'd been having an affair. I had to leave the country we were living in and return to my home country. I've been back for 8 months and am feeling much better. I've reconnected with some old friends and I'm over the worst of the grief. I will be getting divorced this year. We are in lockdown here but people still exer
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